We are all so happy to be back again face to face, although none of us could anticipate we'd still be experiencing challenges related to Covid-19. One of the "thought tricks" I encourage students to practice when feeling overwhelmed is to balance every negative thought with a positive one. For example, if we find ourselves feeling angry/frustrated over restrictions or having to do things differently, it is helpful to remind ourselves how lucky we are to live during a time when communication between medical professionals, administrators, teachers and parents is so readily available. This enables all "helpers" to work together to make the students as safe as possible. This wasn't available historically, for example, during the Spanish flu. Even kindergarten students learn about perspective/empathy during classroom guidance, and are encouraged to not only look for all the helpers available to us but also remember these helpers are someone's mother, father, sister, brother...or even grandparents as well. When we find ourselves wanting to communicate out of a place of anger or fear, it is important to think to yourself, "would I want someone to speak to my mother, father, sister, brother or grandparent this way?" When I pose this question to our students the answer is always a resounding "No!" Even though the way things are may feel frustrating, for our children's sakes, it is important to use this opportunity to practice our LIFESKILLS of flexibility, patience and problem-solving. I am currently visiting all classes to talk about what I can offer them as their school counselor. They are also trained on how to make appointments with me if they'd like to do so. This is my 6th year at RTE so many students can teach this lesson themselves! Next month I will be visiting classes to discuss what is and isn't bullying. Many students are surprised to learn that not all unkind behavior can be called "bullying". This doesn't mean unkind behavior is tolerated but reinforces that our district uses the term bullying only under certain circumstances. I'm including a link here to a past lesson on bullying if parents/guardians would like to see what is discussed (this is the lesson taught to 3rd-5th grade last year during virtual learning. K-2nd learned the same information using the book Chrysanthemum). I also wanted to point you in the direction of additional information related to middle school magnet/choice programs and dates, as well as the availability of school based mental health counselors provided through Columbia Area Mental Health. School Counselors do not provide long-term clinical counseling whereas the school based mental health counselors do. I am always happy to make this referral for you. Additionally, Camp Hands of Hope will have their first bereavement camp in November. This is a wonderful opportunity to process grief for children and their families. There is a small fee, however, you may apply for a waiver if needed. Please take an opportunity to visit my website, The Counselor's Cubby, for more information about myself, RTE's school counseling program and community resources. Don't forget parent orientation on Monday, September. You can also reach me at the school at extension 26124. Again, welcome back!
~Mrs. Tanner
RTE School Counselor